I have been playing a lot of soccer with LatteGirl over the past couple of weeks, and it has shown in her play.Â She kicks harder now, is starting to learn to aim her shots, and is now far more aggressive going after the ball.
Let me back up a moment.Â Last year, a girl on the team that LatteGirl was playing fell while three or four kids were going after the ball, in the ensuing melee the girl got (quite accidentally kicked in the head).Â Now the mother freaks out (she is not only a parent, but the coach of the other team), and starts screaming (and cursing) at LatteGirl’s coach about how mean and aggressive his players are. (LatteGirl was in no way involved in this incident).
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So back to present day, TheWife comments that we need to teach LatteGirl to “tone it down” and not go after the ball so aggressively.Â When I ask why, she reminds me of what is now being called in the 6-8 year old league… “The Incident.”
My response to her was, you either teach her to be the one that does the kicking, or you relegate her to being the one kicked in the face by not playing seriously.
“This is why you are not allowed to go to her games!Â Are allÂ men just so ‘angry’ and play everything so seriously?”
So, I put it to you… Is it a “guy thing?”Â Am I wrong to teach my daughter to play properly and up to her abilities (bearing in mind that I am doing nothing to “push” her, just guide what she is already doing, and showing her how to do what she is doing better)?Â Should I be teaching her to “play down” to the other kids?