LatteGirl is described as a “hyper-sensitive” child.Â (Also known as emotional, but far more so), when you combine that with the effects of “mild” sensory integration disorder you wind up with an emotional cocktail that could melt the heart of all but the most cold hearted people.
In some ways this actually has been a effective tool.Â We rarely, have to chastise her about things we want her to do.Â And even on those occasions that it is warranted, it takes little more than “reminding her” that she was expected to do something, or not do something.Â But we never have to raise our voices.Â In truth, we can’t.Â It will only open up the flooding of tears as she beats herself up for not being “any good” or “stupid.”
I have been watching a few developing scenarios, and I have discovered something however that is bothering me.Â It is starting to look like she is learning how to play us, using this technique.Â If it is something that she only half-hearted wants to do (or has to do) such as homework or her keyboard lessons (which was HER choice by the way), then if she is corrected or instructed on anything, she just falls immediately into complete meltdown.
Now normally when she melts down, the only thing to do is to send her off to the sofa or her room to calm down, because there is no way to talk to her or get her to do anything when she reaches that state.Â But, now in certain instances like I mentioned, she will melt down to a point where she knows I will say, “Let’s take a break” and she will, and she will recover from it far quicker than usual, and then want to participate in some other activity for her break… such as “Just watch Hanna Montana before we start again.”
I am not happy about this.Â It feels wrong.Â But at the same time, if try to force her to continue, she will most likely hit a real meltdown state anyway, and it will only increase the non-productive time.Â I wish I could tell for sure which is which, and figure out a way to break this habit quickly.